This happened September 20…
As I was driving today, I sat at a red light. I heard “Fuck Hillary Clinton” from behind me. I thought, really? But then he kept yelling it. I put my car in park and went to confront him. I asked him what he thought he was doing, that I had a four-year old in my car and he needs to stop screaming “fuck.” He kept yelling it louder.
The light was now green. I told him to stop yelling and asked the woman driving this white, twenty-something male if she was ok with this behavior. She ignored me. [A week later I am concerned that she was being abused by him and I put her in a bad situation by asking her to comment.]
He continued to yell, call me a bitch, and tell me I am not his mother. He continued to yell as I got back in my car and drove away.
Ev talked about it the entire ride home. For twenty minutes we had to talk about why what he did was not a good choice. I am sure he never thought I would get out of my car and confront him, but I refuse to be cowed. I have had “loser” yelled me at a few times; I can deal with that. I have a whopping two Hillary stickers on my car. But to scream and curse like a crazy person–this is the kind of behavior such hateful rhetoric Trump’s actions are encouraging. [I have had lots of people I love tell me they are mad at me for getting out, that there are lots of crazy people out there and they would be really mad at me if I got shot. I tell them I get that, but I am not going to be bullied and I will always be that person who gets out of her car.]
Meanwhile, Ev knows we are voting for Hillary and Vera Cole, but she also knows we don’t hate Trump or his voters. I teach her to dislike his policies. That is what I am teaching in my house.
But in other houses clearly people are being taught that yelling obscenities at strangers is appropriate. I am sure I will get a lot of “I am sorry this happened to you,” and while that is nice, what I really want to know in the comments is what each and every one of you is doing to elevate the rhetoric above hate.
When I got back in the car, Ev told me I was brave that I went and talked to him. And I was. Because the way he talked to me like a silly little lady showed me that we need to disrupt this kind of behavior every single time [just as Hillary did in the debate!].
Also, I will be ordering a Hillary sign after I post this comment [still waiting for it!]. If you are with her, I hope you will do something to help her get elected and show your support publicly along with me. And if you aren’t with her, I want to know what you are doing to elevate the rhetoric in your household so the same doesn’t happen again to me and my four-year-old.